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Bookclub review: Sophia Khan is not obliged ~ Ayisha Malik.

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh.

I just finished the book so I am going to tell you what I do think about it (spoil alert 🚨that I will try to put at the end of the post with this emoticon 🚨).

And ~reminding me borrowing books from my mother as a Teenager~ if I would like my daughter to read it when she will be older.

But let’s first answer the questions at the end of the book 📖

  1. Have you ever read a novel with a Muslim protagonist before ? Do you think it changed the way you read the book ? I guess it’s the first one I read, it may have changed a bit the way I was reading it but I’m very pleased of a strong Muslim character who speaks her mind and is not afraid to be different and do things her way.
  2. Was Sophia what you expected of a Muslim heroine ? In what way was she different? The expected thing for Muslim heroine was that she prays. The unexpected is that sometimes her language is a bit … unmuslim. But the book is realistic because no one is perfect! No one can be ! And I’m very happy she is not ashamed of being a 30 virgin, Hijabi who pray ! Especially in a western country. I think it’s a good role model (would be a very good one if she wouldn’t smoke and sometimes swear). But I don’t think she is that much different of actual living Muslim. I’m French & revert and a lot of Muslim I met in my life are quite like that actually. (Except I don’t know about their privacy including prayers).
  3. What did you think of the title ? In what ways is Sophia not obliged ? Do you think the author meant to use the word ironically ? If so, how ? The way I see the title is that she is not obliged to be like everyone else. She is not obliged to get married if she doesn’t want or is not ready. And it define a bit her mentality in a way I can’t really explain…
  4. 🚨Would you want to read Sophia’s Muslim dating book ? Do you think she was right not to follow through with it ? 🚨 How important do you think it is to share religious beliefs with your partner? Well, I’m not sure if I want to read it or not… but I’m actually reading the following book to know what will happen next !!! I think she was right because Sofia is not obliged! Of course! If she doesn’t feel it’s right she definitely shouldn’t do it ! About the religious beliefs: I think it is one of the most important thing you have to share your partner with! Especially Islam because the practice is daily and if you don’t share it you miss one thing important in a couple which is mutual understanding. Couple relationship is complicated enough 😅
  5. 🚨This question is the greatest spolier ever so I will write it and answer at the very end of the post! 🚨

Now what do I think about the book: I loved it, I love Sophia Khan, she is strong, she is intelligent, a bit crazy (good way). She is not scared to assume who she is, she wear her hijab no matter what people say or think about her, she prays at work, she is great. I would love to be her friend despite of her smoking habits and… language sometimes !

The two only things that I’m not very confortable with.

But maybe is not to have a too perfect Muslim heroine, maybe a too perfect heroine practicing Islam would not have caught the intention of some readers for long.

Would I let my daughter borrow this (these) books. I’m still unsure. In a way yes, a heroine practising Islam, living with her parents, working and still waiting to get married to have intimacy with a man. Who has a strong mentality is a great example for a teenager Or young adult. It has this “don’t be ashamed of what you believe in/ you are/ what you want” thing. So It could be good.

In another way I’m very uncomfortable with the “smoking is ok” thing… and language… still 2 things she will probably face in real life with friends/colleagues/non Muslim family members but These really made me feel SO uncomfortable, I wouldn’t want her to think I am ok with these habits.

But one thing is sure I would be very happy if my daughter turned to be a Sophia Khan. Despite her flaws… as long as she ask Allah for forgiveness. 💕

🚨🚨🚨🚨 spoiler 🚨 🚨🚨🚨

Book 1:

Question 5: How do you imagine Conall and Sophia’s relationship? Did she make the right choice ?

I imagine them praying and fasting together 😊 and quitting their bad habits together!

Is the second question a real question? Lol

Why would it be a wrong choice ? (Yes even after reading book 2 for those who know what happens next).

Book 2: going through the pages I was so disappointed of the cliché of revert who did it for someone and not just by faith. We face it everyday as reverted and I was so happy to think he would not convert for her but for the love of Allah.

And we (reverted) would have needed/wanted a hero that converted for Allah and not for love.

You don’t know how annoying it is when people say to you “oh you are Muslim because of your husband ?” Like you don’t have a brain of your own or you can’t believe in something because that’s not what you have been taught…

but at the end you can clearly understand he really do believe in Allah and he found peace.

Conclusion:

Loved the stories but won’t keep the books In My bookshelf.

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Book club

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh sisters

I have been away for long taking care of my baby ma sha Allah!

Being a mother is such a full time job al hamdulilah.

This post is not about kids, it’s about us -mothers.

Being a ummi comes with responsibilities and a huge amount of work, not much time for ourselves and sometimes struggles to strengthen our faith nor keep a good connection with salat let’s be honest. Not for all of us maybe Allahu alhem, But there is a point when things will get better in sha Allah.

I really pray for you to be one of the best mother who manage everything but I am not.

I feel really bad and guilty about that. Well I succeeded with jummah as I have a free nursery for my baby on Friday morning till mid day and it’s a huge relief!

I guess as my baby is getting older things will become easier in sha Allah, I’m not hopeless, I know it’s temporary and pray ar Rahman ar raheem to forgive me and help me following the right path.

With all the good intentions of improvement i started a bookclub ( a craftclub and sisters achieve 365) to get some me time and my mind off everyday routines.

So I will write reviews on the Books we read in sha Allah starting with December ‘s book which was:

I loved it!! I’m definitely going to keep it for my daughter to read it when she will grow up in sha Allah.

Easy to read with some surahs and context of these.

Description

You have another mother. You’ve never seen her. You’ve never heard her voice. You’ve never perhaps even thought of her as your mother. But she is your mother nonetheless. And if you get to Jannah, your mother will be there, waiting to meet you. Her name is Khadijah (RA). She was the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad (S), the first to believe in his message and the first mother of the greatest nation history has ever seen. As you work towards reaching Jannah, and meeting your mother Khadijah, it will certainly help if you did a little preparation beforehand and got to know about her story. This book has been specially crafted to help you do that. You see, most of the stories you’ve heard about Khadijah have probably been raw translations from classical sources. While they sound captivating in the original Arabic language, there’s quite a lot that’s lost when they are translated into English. So rather than sticking with a dry narrative, we decided to get to the core of the stories and tell them in a fluid style that the modern reader is accustomed to today. You’ll find that the rich descriptions immerse you within the scenes, the flowing narrative renders a seamless reading experience and since we’ve still stuck to historical sources, the story loses nothing of its original iman elevating inspiration. So get to know you mother, give this book a read, inspire yourself for that meeting in Jannah in-sha-Allah! Author: Fatima Barkatulla Recommended Age: 9+ Format: Hardback Book Pages: 192

We were lucky to have a little chat with the author Fatima Barkatulla.

Most of it is based on narrations with some of the details being imagined

The bits about Abu Jahl are true (that he proposed to Khadijah etc) but the dialogue is imagined. One of the shuyookh we consulted said: Abu Jahl has no honour- you can make up dialogue for him.

It was a difficult book to be balanced with because of course we couldn’t attribute anything blatantly untrue to Khadijah & the Prophet ﷺ. At the same time there is very little detailed info on Khadijah and different aspects of her life. So some artistic licence had to be exercised. But we consulted with scholars and they okayed our approach.

The publishers wanted to present it like fiction books are so that kids would enjoy the read and not feel like it’s a text book or dry read.

I think it took 1 and a half years to research and write the book.

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Ramadan 2018

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh

For this month of Ramadan I decided to read as much as I can.

Not only the Quran but Islamic books aswell and learn to read Arabic.

Today I read this one “Family & manners in Islam” most of the books I will talk about (in sha Allah) come from Guide Muslim ‘s website where you can download them for free.

It’s a good reminder of good manners and family’s obligations.

I think it’s always good to remind things, read even if you already know to try to improve yourself.

I mean by reading about good manners sometimes you realise your weaknesses and can identify the points you need to improve to be a better person.

And it’s something very important to do.

In the meantime I’m still reading the new Muslim guide where you can find all the informations that new converted Muslim needs to know about Islam.

You can download it in many languages!

So share the good news to new Muslims or non-Muslims who wants to know more about Islam in sha Allah.

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Al hamdulilah

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh

Hope you are well sisters, in sha Allah.

My son is born al hamdulilah and I am very happy with this cute calm baby ma sha Allah.

I’m very excited because next week I’m starting some classes with turning point academy in sha Allah.

Turning Point Academy (TPA) is a London based registered charity which serves women who have converted to Islam and those who are interested in Islam. It is a non-profit organisation, which was established in 2004 in response to the lack of local support for women, and it has now grown to provide a range of specific services that aim to meet educational, social and transitional needs. No fees are charged for any of the services provided and our professional team volunteer their time and skills to this much needed cause. TPA relies solely on the financial support of brothers and sisters.

You can read more on the ABOUT US section.

You can even invite your non Muslims friends who are interested in learning more about Islam in sha Allah.

I hope I will have time to post a bit more and share with you. May Allah protect you.

Fi amanelah

Allah hafiz

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Maternity break 

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh sisters,

I haven’t post for long being busy with my toddler and new pregnancy but I will be back in 2018 in sha Allah. 

May Allah bless you and protect you and your family. Ameen.

Fi amanilah.

Allah hafiz

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Eid Mubarak! 

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh sisters !

Well I am quite busy with packing as we are going to move out of London but I am going to be more busy… we had the best news and gift on Eid’s day ! 

I am expecting a new baby Al hamdulilah!

That explains why I was so tired and I forgot so many things 😂 (like my blog’s posts for Ramadan !!!!) 

Here is how my husband found out coming back from the mosque, with a gift from his 1 year old daughter inside a card.


I hope you had a nice Eid celebration with your family and loved ones and I wish that Allah’s mercy & blessings shine on you.

Fi amanela 

Allah hafiz 

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Ramadan with kids : days 4 to 7

Day 04: Pledge à Zéro waste Ramadan~reduce,recycle & reuse !

There is plenty of activity to do with kids to learn these things! Internet is a great source of inspiration.

Allah doesn’t like those who waste [Qran 6:141]

Day 05:  We can  teach our kids the etiquettes of eating in Islam. Especially eating the sunnah way : one part food, one part water and one part air. 

Day 06: Give a little Sadaqah every day.

According to Quran, Sadaqa leads into the purification of the benefactor and that sadaqa should not be necessarily be in a material form and can be a “voluntary effort”, or a kind word.Even a smile. This is in agreement with a narration attributed to the prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, which says “every good deed is a form of sadaq.”

And Even if sadaqah is different from Zakat, the month of Ramadan is an excellent opportunity for Muslim parents to teach their children about the significance of fasting during Ramadan as well as the importance of paying Zakat. Though children are exempt from paying Zakat, they must know about the concept particularly what it is, why is it due and to whom it goes. 

Day 07: Say ” SubhanAllahi wa Bihamdihi” [Allaah is free from imperfection and all praise is due to Him] morning and evening 100times.

Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said to me, “Shall I tell you the expression that is most loved by Allah?” It is `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi’ (Allah is free from imperfection and His is the praise)’.”

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “He who recites in the morning and in the evening the statement: `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi (Allah is free from imperfection and I begin with praising Him)’ one hundred times, will not be surpassed on the Day of Resurrection by anyone with better deeds than one who utters the same words or utters more of these words.”

[Muslim]

Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, “For him who says: `Subhan-Allahi wa bi hamdihi (Allah is free from imperfection, and I begin with praising Him, and to Him),’ a palm-tree will be planted in Jannah.”

[At-Tirmidhi]

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Ramadan with kids: days 1 to 3

Assalam aleykoum warathmatullah wabarakatuh 

Day 1: Make your intention to fast purely for the sake of Allah

I wish you an excellent Ramadan, that this month be synonymous of Peace, repentance and adoration.

May Allah help you and leave you in excellent health!

Day 2: Write down your spiritual goals for the month

Well my daughter is too small for now and can’t write but later on I guess I will ask her to do this aswell.

My goals for the months are to read Qran everyday in sha Allah, learn more surah and settle a “Islamic routine” of reading/learning about Islam.

Day 3: Spread Ramadan joy by Sharing food with neighbours. 

I think it’s a good way to teach our children about the importance of being kind to their neighbours.

 Islam considers the rights of the neighbor to be extremely important. The angel Jibreel (Gabriel), may Allah exalt his mention, continued to urge the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ), to treat neighbors with kindness until he thought that the Sharee’ah would assign him a share of his neighbor’s inheritance. The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ), said: “Jibreel kept on recommending me to treat neighbors kindly and politely so that I thought that Allah would order [me] to make them [my] heirs.”The Quran recommends treating neighbors kindly. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side…} [Quran 4:36] Look how the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ), exhorted Muslims to be good to their neighbors and to honor them when he said: “… and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his neighbor generously.” The narration of Muslim may Allah have mercy upon him states: “Should be good to his neighbor.”

So why not cook some biscuits, bake a cake or prepare anything with your kid and distribute them together to neighbours. 😊

It’s an idea I keep in mind when my daughter will grow old…

I will write tomorrow about another tip for Ramadan with kids in sha Allah…

Enjoy your day ❤️

Allah hafiz

Fi amanila